No matter what the future holds for you and your child, you will always be a part of their life’s story. An adoptee isn’t just a child who someone adopted. They are a child with a rich heritage of different family members who love and care for them. 

How you and the adoptive parents communicate with one another is how they will remember you.

How Can I Communicate With My Child?

When you work with A Loving Option Adoption, your dedicated Birth Parent Specialist will help you select the right family to adopt your child. You can review the bios of several couples who closely match your requirements for raising them.

Choose the couple who wishes to have the same relationship as you hope to have with them and your child. It takes time to build trust, but A Loving Option Adoption helps everyone work through their fears.

A semi-open or open adoption means you can begin communicating with one another immediately. You can meet in person or online, even before your child’s birth. Building trust and respect at the beginning helps pave the way for a stronger relationship.

Ways to Communicate

When a couple adopts through A Loving Option Adoption, we ask them to commit to a communication agreement with the birth parents before finalization. This may include sending letters and photos every few months during the first year and once a year after that.

We encourage birth parents to write their child a letter explaining why they chose to place them for adoption. Consider sending your child birthday cards or a special Christmas present each year. If you have other children, include them by having them draw pictures or write letters. 

If you live close to the adoptive family, ask to be included in some of their special family events. It’s not unusual for adoptive families to include birth mothers and fathers in birthday parties, graduations, weddings, etc. 

As Your Child Grows

When your child becomes an adult, the decision to remain in contact with you is up to them. Hopefully, by then, you have built the type of relationship that makes contact with one another a natural part of each other’s lives.

Rest assured, as you build a healthy, respectful relationship with both your child and their adoptive family, they will not forget you. We all have the capacity to love and be loved by so many, and your child will be very loved because of the many different people in their lives.

If you have more questions like this or want more information about adoption, please contact A Loving Option Adoption. You can privately and confidentially speak with a specialist who can explain the process and help you determine if making an adoption plan is right for you.

You can schedule an appointment online or call or text our main line at (865) 684-1894 or our 24/7 Helpline at (865) 345-2601. We’re here to help.