“Give up” or “put up” for adoption are phrases used decades ago to describe the adoption process. But those sayings don’t describe adoption today. When those terms were used, an unwed mother could not keep her baby due to society’s standards.
Times have changed, and today, a woman faced with an unplanned pregnancy has options for her child.
If I Choose Adoption, Am I Giving Up?
No, choosing adoption is not giving up. No loving mother “gives up” her child. Although many women in the past may have been forced to, they never gave up on their children.
Today, because of the adoption choices a woman has, she makes a plan for her child. A birth mother directs her child’s future by choosing the potential adoptive family who raises them.
By selecting the type of adoption plan, she also determines how much of a relationship she wants with her child as they grow.
How Do I Select an Adoptive Family?
At A Loving Option Adoption, we provide a dedicated Birth Parent Specialist who works closely with you to determine your desires for your child. Together, you discuss the lifestyle, environment, family size, hobbies, religion, education, etc. that you want for your child.
Your Birth Parent Specialist selects bios of potential adoptive families for you to review. All our families qualify for adoption after passing thorough background checks, submitting references and medical and employment records, and filling out a detailed questionnaire. You’ll view pictures of them, their neighborhood, home, and other things they want to share.
You also have the opportunity to meet them before your child is born.
What Are the Different Adoption Plans?
The following are the three plans to choose from:
Open Adoption
This plan allows you and the adoptive family you choose to communicate freely with one another. You can exchange as much or as little personal information as you wish.
Semi-Open Adoption
A semi-open adoption plan lets you communicate with the adoptive family, but we handle all communication. Letters, photos, and cards are sent to us first, and we forward them. This plan provides more privacy.
Closed Adoption
Very few adoptions are closed today. When an adoption is closed, you and the adoptive family have no communication with each other. The courts seal all adoption records.
What Do I Tell My Family?
Most likely, your family has a lot of suggestions, questions, and concerns. Ultimately, this is your decision and yours alone. We are here to support and care for you if you choose to place your child for adoption.
You first need to determine if adoption is the best option for you and your child. Contact us, and let’s talk about your situation and the adoption process. We can also help you discuss adoption with your family members.
You don’t have to commit to an adoption because you contact us. We’re here to help you in any way we can. Fill out our private online contact form, and we’ll get in touch shortly. Adoption can be a loving option for you and your child.